There are a TON of reasons why you should forgive FAST, but I want to bring to you my top 3! We are ALL faced with situations that create problems on a regular basis. Some issues are A LOT more serious than others. These problems can occur between friends, family, co-workers, neighbor’s, etc. The key I want to drive home is you should QUICKLY kiss and make up!
Why in the world would you want to forgive anyway? What is someone has created SO MUCH pain in your life? What is it REALLY worth to forgive this person? I can EASILY forget this person and move on with my life, so why even forgive them?
I am in NO form saying ANYTHING about becoming best friends with someone who has demolished your trust or abused you in ANY form. What I am referring to you here is a much more PERSONAL thing to do, rather than building a relationship with someone you dislike. This is meant to help and NOT create more distress. If you find the information useful, apply it. I am in no means trying to offend anyone or downplay the seriousness of any particular situation; this is GENERAL information in an attempt to HELP you become the best version of yourself. The benefits OUTWEIGH the burden.
Here are the TOP 3 reasons to forgive FAST:
- Life is too short
Reason one, life is too short. Let’s be honest, we have NO IDEA when our last day will be and expressing anger/frustration towards someone or something for a LONG period of time is holding you back from experiencing life to the fullest. We are closing off avenues that would potentially generate lively experiences when we hold grudges. Something mentally is interrupting the regular sequence of thinking when you have pent up anger. You tend to think more negatively and ultimately are cutting off experiences that could potentially enrich your life. Life is REALLY short and it is our duty to live to our FULL potential!
“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.” – Confucius
Reason two, regret! The worse thing you can do is add to the emotional frustration. You already feel some type of way about the situation, why add to the negativity. What if (God forbid) something were to happen and you did not get a chance to forgive that person or work it out? You would probably feel terrible and would have to live with that for the rest of your life. Like I said in reason one, life is too short!
“Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.” – Anne Lamott
Reason three, self-limiting. You can paralyze the thought process with high levels of grudge. It is a painful emotion that literally destroys the human soul. Holding grudges literally holds you back from reaching the BEST version of yourself; it limits the person you can become. It’s like stumping your spiritual growth. You place a ceiling on who you can become by NOT forgiving. Always strive to be the BIGGER person!
“A life lived without forgiveness is a prison.” -William Arthur Ward
There is NO time specifics to forgiving and you obviously want to do it when you are ready. I am not saying to rush the process, but you definitely want to forgive as fast as YOU possibly can and move on. I want to pause here and reiterate that this is on an individual basis and should be taken as GENERAL advice; use it as a tool. I would advise seeking council before making any SERIOUS life decisions.
Again, I hope this helps!!!
To Your MASSIVE Success,
“Motivating YOU to Become The BEST Version of Yourself”
Has life ever handed you multiple complicated situations at once? All simultaneously entering your life from out of nowhere? It feels like you have no room to breath and have no clue where to start. Every direction you turn there seems to be another problem tacked onto your list. I know this feeling and I believe you do too!
It makes you want to SCREAM!!! The only two words that pop to mind are, “I’m overwhelmed”! The reasons for being overwhelmed are numerous. There are times when life just happens to simply be overwhelming, but there are there times we do it to ourselves. Sometimes we take on more than we can handle and end up doing MORE damage.
There will come a time when you simply just have to STOP! JUST STOP! Stop overthinking everything, chill out and take a DEEP breath. It’s going to be okay. Yes, you have responsibilities and matters to handle, but the most important thing here is to properly manage them and not beat yourself up along the way.
As I said before, there are MANY factors contributing to this level of STRESS which is why I encourage people to simply SLOW DOWN. Think about exactly WHAT is overwhelming you and WHY. From there, check to see if there are ways to limit the stress by breaking things down into little fragments. Prioritize that list by most important and then tackle the little fragments one-by-one.
Go through this process until everything that is NEEDED to be done, gets done! Take another break and restart the process with the other items left on the list. The key here is to “tread lightly” and slowly knock out what needs to be handled in a much more organized straight-forward manner; this will in turn reduce stress/anxiety.
Lastly, you have to remember WHY you STARTED! If you are stressed out because of school, remember what the initial goal was. Whether it was to attain credits, deepen your knowledge or attain a diploma, you must come back to that starting line. Remember WHY you wanted to reach this goal and remind yourself that it is ABSOLUTELY worth it! This can be applied to work, finances, relationships and spirituality. Take your time and really think things through. There may be a few “cuts” that may be necessary to eliminate some of the stress. Do what needs to be done so that your stress levels and the feeling of being overwhelmed are manageable.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE SLOW DOWN and NEVER allow the stress/anxiety swallow you up so much your overwhelming feeling freezes you from taking action on anything. I hope this helps! I shot a corresponding video to this post and placed it on my Facebook fanpage, you can CHECK IT OUT HERE
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I come across A LOT of people who are experiencing some VERY challenging situations in life. They are hurting and sometimes just need a few words of encouragement to get them going in the right direction. Do you know anyone that is facing a tribulation? Have you ever been down and out before and just simply wanted a few words of encouragement?
If you are a human being, you have definitely seen some days that strike painful memories. Whether it is a loss of a close friend or family member, loss of a job, divorce, financial devastation, etc. Lets face it, we ALL have gone through some experiences in life that were not too pleasant. Some of you may be going through this heartache RIGHT NOW!
I bring this sensitive subject up because I would like to remind us all that the way we conduct ourselves ALSO affects the people around us. We do NOT know what the next person is facing or enduring at the current moment, so it’s important to remind ourselves that. Sometimes people can frustrate us and really get us worked up, but it’s NOT ALWAYS a personal thing directed to you. They could be internalizing something else and expressing it through their “not-so-pleasant” attitude.
I hear people say ALL the time that they are “misunderstood”. I believe we are ALL misunderstood to some degree because we naturally are private about certain things going on in our lives. Sometimes we close people off and shut down any interaction with the people we love. Sometimes they are the ones we hurt the most…
So my question is, should YOU do this?
Shouldn’t we at least TRY to be nice in our encounters with other people? Even if they are rude. We have a choice to simply walk away and not make the situation worse. I am not saying to allow people to toss all their garbage on you or mistreat you in any way be abusive, I am simply stating that we can at least be a little more understanding. WE all have “bad days” and take out our anger on the wrong people (sometimes unknowingly).
Anyway, my challenge for you today is to be NICE to everyone that comes in contact with you. Give it a try and see how much different you feel. I promise, it will NOT be easy at first, but it is definitely worth a shot!
Let me know you experiences!
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There are a few things that are extremely important to achieving the goals you desire in life. Without these components, attaining success will NOT be possible. But there is ONE component I want to emphasize today because it is VERY IMPORTANT…in fact, without it, all activities are pointless.
Going through the motions everyday can be quite boring at times, but super important. It is the persistence and consistency that will yield SOLID results. But there is something else that MOST goal setting instructors NEVER talk about. Which is ashamed because their teachings are misleading. Let’s avoid that right away and let me give you the single most important aspect of goal setting.
Going through life with goals WILL get you much further than going through without any goals. But I hear people say ALL the time that they DO INDEED have goals, but most never seem to manifest. This leads to frustration and ultimately FAILURE (by choice of quitting).
Let’s get out of the mindset of what average people do. They simply set a goal, make an intention, write it down, believe in it and take action. Don’t get me wrong, this will yield results, but they may NOT be the exact ones you want. Also, there may be a difference in time spans of when this all will ACTUALLY manifest. So let’s avoid all this and manifest the results we want (or better) and even FASTER than before!
The secret is…associating an important emotional tie with the goal. Something that is SO MEANINGFUL to you, you literally will NOT allow the dream to disappear until it comes into fruition. I found that if I gave my goal EXTREME meaning and coupled it with MASSIVE emotional reasons (it has to happen), my results come POURING in at SPEEDS I never knew possible.
This is certainly something WE ALL should be doing to get “lucky”. With the attachment of this “emotional reason”, your DRIVE and DETERMINATION walk into a level unheard of. People will start helping you achieve your goal and ultimately BELIEVE in you! I promise this ONE little change to goal setting will DRASTICALLY change your results! It has been working for me REALLY well this year and I just know it will work out for you too.
Add an “Emotional Reason” to your goals and WATCH the MAGIC unfold!!!
To Your Massive Success,
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What kind of gas do you use in your vehicle? When you go to the gas station, you know exactly what kind of gas your vehicle takes (hopefully). There are a few kinds of gasoline that serve different kinds of engines. Your vehicle needs the right gas type to function properly and to its full capacity. Sometimes, putting in the wrong gasoline can ruin the engine completely. There are a ton of other factors that go into making a vehicle run, but for time sake, let’s stick with the gas example.
Our lives are run relatively similar to a vehicle. We need to constantly put some form of energy into our bodies. Food aside, what drives YOU? Yes, your car takes gasoline, but what moves you…emotions or value?
I had a friend that had HIGH levels of energy, which was a good thing in many ways. He was a hard worker and could get a lot done in a small period of time. The issue was that he would burn himself out relatively fast. So for two weeks, this guy would deliver unbelievable results in his business. BUT, (like clockwork) after two weeks he would mope around, fed up, exhausted and complaining about EVERYTHING! What’s the problem? Well, if a project lasted more than two weeks, he would basically sabotage all his efforts into self-pity and depression. The worst part was that it affected EVERYONE on his team, including his family.
This guy was an emotional roller coaster. One day he was UP and the very next day he was DOWN. It was exhausting to even watch. He would catch a wave (bandwagon) and ride it like it was the most incredible thing. But the moment the emotional high was wearing, the whole project would go south. I believe his motives were right, but he was driving his efforts from the wrong source. His efforts were coming from an emotional place. If the emotions were up that day, so were his actions and vice versa.
It was immediately clear to me what was going on because I found myself do this same exact kind of mistake in my life. I was acting upon things on emotion instead of VALUE. I would get all PUMPED up about an idea without completely thinking it through and take HUGE action on it. And when I was tired with the idea, I would trash it! That’s because I never tapped into my value system.
We have to stop and think things through. Run the ideas through our value system FIRST, before WASTING our emotions. I believe the emotions are a great asset if they are in alignment with our values. If my friend was executing his business from a “value” standpoint, I truly believe his business would not only be successful, but would constantly be GROWING. Since values are solid and strong, his life wouldn’t be an emotional roller coaster. When things go wrong or the project exceeds two weeks, he would have the maturity to reevaluate the situation and make adjustments before entering the emotional abyss off failure.
So, I will ask you again, what drives YOU? Emotions or Values?
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