I believe it is fair to say that EVERYONE is battling something. To some degree, we are ALL facing our very own “Goliath”. However, there seems to be a level of carelessness when it comes to handling the “battles” everyone else is facing.
Are we truly being empathetic towards others?
Lets face it, we are ALL consumed with our own lives and ALL of the complexities it entails. There are so many things going on at once, it is very hard to genuinely invest our time/emotions into other things. I am not sure if it is simply the fast-paced society we live in, or if we have just grown a part from each other.
One thing is for sure, we are all connected to each other to some extent. I believe our personality, compassion, geographical location and some other factors determine the extension. Still, with all these factors acting as glue for our connectivity, we seem to be missing the mark when it comes to being empathetic.
I think it is time to recognize that everyone is going through a rough patch in life. It may not be something you even notice or are aware of, but it’s important to understand this concept at its basic level. Nobody in this world has it “all together” or “all figured” out, even if it appears to be that way. Inside, each individual has challenges they face daily. If we all can just grasp that fact, I believe the world would be a better place.
I don’t want to sound childish or immature, but I seriously believe if we can all briefly get our heads out our own problems for one minute, this idea would be very clear. It’s simply having an awareness and a compassion towards others. What this does is it eliminates the top layer of judgement we place on each other. It’s a forced pause, a thinking halt, and an empathetic appreciation for one another.
So all this “misunderstood” and “anger” may be not as intense as it currently is. Lets try to put ourselves in other peoples shoes and try to understand their perspective. Maybe ask “why” to yourself first and then proceed with your approach. These little pauses WILL make a world of a difference. Let’s be clear, this is not to excuse ANYONE from stupidity or any form of abuse, it is simply an exercise to grow our emotional intelligence.
I say give it a try today. Before you make a judgement on someone, pause and realize they are facing a “Goliath” at some level and they are acting with that on their shoulders. Let me know your thoughts and keep a look out for my Podcast, “Everyone is Battling Something” next week on the Rotated Views Podcast.
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To Your Massive Success,
There are a TON of reasons why you should forgive FAST, but I want to bring to you my top 3! We are ALL faced with situations that create problems on a regular basis. Some issues are A LOT more serious than others. These problems can occur between friends, family, co-workers, neighbor’s, etc. The key I want to drive home is you should QUICKLY kiss and make up!
Why in the world would you want to forgive anyway? What is someone has created SO MUCH pain in your life? What is it REALLY worth to forgive this person? I can EASILY forget this person and move on with my life, so why even forgive them?
I am in NO form saying ANYTHING about becoming best friends with someone who has demolished your trust or abused you in ANY form. What I am referring to you here is a much more PERSONAL thing to do, rather than building a relationship with someone you dislike. This is meant to help and NOT create more distress. If you find the information useful, apply it. I am in no means trying to offend anyone or downplay the seriousness of any particular situation; this is GENERAL information in an attempt to HELP you become the best version of yourself. The benefits OUTWEIGH the burden.
Here are the TOP 3 reasons to forgive FAST:
- Life is too short
Reason one, life is too short. Let’s be honest, we have NO IDEA when our last day will be and expressing anger/frustration towards someone or something for a LONG period of time is holding you back from experiencing life to the fullest. We are closing off avenues that would potentially generate lively experiences when we hold grudges. Something mentally is interrupting the regular sequence of thinking when you have pent up anger. You tend to think more negatively and ultimately are cutting off experiences that could potentially enrich your life. Life is REALLY short and it is our duty to live to our FULL potential!
“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.” – Confucius
Reason two, regret! The worse thing you can do is add to the emotional frustration. You already feel some type of way about the situation, why add to the negativity. What if (God forbid) something were to happen and you did not get a chance to forgive that person or work it out? You would probably feel terrible and would have to live with that for the rest of your life. Like I said in reason one, life is too short!
“Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.” – Anne Lamott
Reason three, self-limiting. You can paralyze the thought process with high levels of grudge. It is a painful emotion that literally destroys the human soul. Holding grudges literally holds you back from reaching the BEST version of yourself; it limits the person you can become. It’s like stumping your spiritual growth. You place a ceiling on who you can become by NOT forgiving. Always strive to be the BIGGER person!
“A life lived without forgiveness is a prison.” -William Arthur Ward
There is NO time specifics to forgiving and you obviously want to do it when you are ready. I am not saying to rush the process, but you definitely want to forgive as fast as YOU possibly can and move on. I want to pause here and reiterate that this is on an individual basis and should be taken as GENERAL advice; use it as a tool. I would advise seeking council before making any SERIOUS life decisions.
Again, I hope this helps!!!
To Your MASSIVE Success,
“Motivating YOU to Become The BEST Version of Yourself”