There are a TON of reasons why you should forgive FAST, but I want to bring to you my top 3! We are ALL faced with situations that create problems on a regular basis. Some issues are A LOT more serious than others. These problems can occur between friends, family, co-workers, neighbor’s, etc. The key I want to drive home is you should QUICKLY kiss and make up!
Why in the world would you want to forgive anyway? What is someone has created SO MUCH pain in your life? What is it REALLY worth to forgive this person? I can EASILY forget this person and move on with my life, so why even forgive them?
I am in NO form saying ANYTHING about becoming best friends with someone who has demolished your trust or abused you in ANY form. What I am referring to you here is a much more PERSONAL thing to do, rather than building a relationship with someone you dislike. This is meant to help and NOT create more distress. If you find the information useful, apply it. I am in no means trying to offend anyone or downplay the seriousness of any particular situation; this is GENERAL information in an attempt to HELP you become the best version of yourself. The benefits OUTWEIGH the burden.
Here are the TOP 3 reasons to forgive FAST:
- Life is too short
Reason one, life is too short. Let’s be honest, we have NO IDEA when our last day will be and expressing anger/frustration towards someone or something for a LONG period of time is holding you back from experiencing life to the fullest. We are closing off avenues that would potentially generate lively experiences when we hold grudges. Something mentally is interrupting the regular sequence of thinking when you have pent up anger. You tend to think more negatively and ultimately are cutting off experiences that could potentially enrich your life. Life is REALLY short and it is our duty to live to our FULL potential!
“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.” – Confucius
Reason two, regret! The worse thing you can do is add to the emotional frustration. You already feel some type of way about the situation, why add to the negativity. What if (God forbid) something were to happen and you did not get a chance to forgive that person or work it out? You would probably feel terrible and would have to live with that for the rest of your life. Like I said in reason one, life is too short!
“Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.” – Anne Lamott
Reason three, self-limiting. You can paralyze the thought process with high levels of grudge. It is a painful emotion that literally destroys the human soul. Holding grudges literally holds you back from reaching the BEST version of yourself; it limits the person you can become. It’s like stumping your spiritual growth. You place a ceiling on who you can become by NOT forgiving. Always strive to be the BIGGER person!
“A life lived without forgiveness is a prison.” -William Arthur Ward
There is NO time specifics to forgiving and you obviously want to do it when you are ready. I am not saying to rush the process, but you definitely want to forgive as fast as YOU possibly can and move on. I want to pause here and reiterate that this is on an individual basis and should be taken as GENERAL advice; use it as a tool. I would advise seeking council before making any SERIOUS life decisions.
Again, I hope this helps!!!
To Your MASSIVE Success,
“Motivating YOU to Become The BEST Version of Yourself”
I come across A LOT of people who are experiencing some VERY challenging situations in life. They are hurting and sometimes just need a few words of encouragement to get them going in the right direction. Do you know anyone that is facing a tribulation? Have you ever been down and out before and just simply wanted a few words of encouragement?
If you are a human being, you have definitely seen some days that strike painful memories. Whether it is a loss of a close friend or family member, loss of a job, divorce, financial devastation, etc. Lets face it, we ALL have gone through some experiences in life that were not too pleasant. Some of you may be going through this heartache RIGHT NOW!
I bring this sensitive subject up because I would like to remind us all that the way we conduct ourselves ALSO affects the people around us. We do NOT know what the next person is facing or enduring at the current moment, so it’s important to remind ourselves that. Sometimes people can frustrate us and really get us worked up, but it’s NOT ALWAYS a personal thing directed to you. They could be internalizing something else and expressing it through their “not-so-pleasant” attitude.
I hear people say ALL the time that they are “misunderstood”. I believe we are ALL misunderstood to some degree because we naturally are private about certain things going on in our lives. Sometimes we close people off and shut down any interaction with the people we love. Sometimes they are the ones we hurt the most…
So my question is, should YOU do this?
Shouldn’t we at least TRY to be nice in our encounters with other people? Even if they are rude. We have a choice to simply walk away and not make the situation worse. I am not saying to allow people to toss all their garbage on you or mistreat you in any way be abusive, I am simply stating that we can at least be a little more understanding. WE all have “bad days” and take out our anger on the wrong people (sometimes unknowingly).
Anyway, my challenge for you today is to be NICE to everyone that comes in contact with you. Give it a try and see how much different you feel. I promise, it will NOT be easy at first, but it is definitely worth a shot!
Let me know you experiences!
To Your Massive Success,
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